A necessary ingredient: Support is essential to any healthy love relationship. According to the self-help guru, Tony Roberts, “Emotional support in a relationship is the ability to show understanding, compassion, and love -- no matter what.” Your partner receives different types of support from different sources. It is critical that emotional support comes from you.
It takes skill: In most relationships knowing when and how to show support is not easy. It is also not easy to ask for it. The Support love skill helps you work with your partner to learn how to be better providers of the support needed by you both, especially emotional support.
Practice makes perfect: This Love Lab will afford you the opportunity to ask your partner about their feelings regarding the support in their life and vice versa. The responses the two of you share will increase your knowledge of what the support needs are for you both.
What are some of the things that you feel you need the most support around?
What can I do to offer more support to you?
When was a time I provided support that you weren’t expecting?
When was a time that you felt unsupported by me that I missed?
What is one thing I could do to provide the kind of support you would like?
Here’s a joke about support: because we should always be on the lookout for some humor:
I just told my luggage that we were not going on vacation this year. Now I’m dealing with emotional baggage.
