"Don't assume they know that you appreciate what they do. Say thank you for the little things. It makes you feel appreciated daily."
—Tamara and Bernie Grand, who attribute their 22 years of marriage to daily appreciation
Want to know a super simple way to make your partner glow? Appreciate them and say thank you. It’s that easy!
What the research says
Scientists at the University of Georgia found that when you feel grateful and receive appreciation from your partner, your relationship is much more likely to last. If you are going through a rough patch, implementing a daily gratitude practice can even help repair your partnership.
Making your partner glow
Even if you don’t usually say “thank you” to your partner, it’s as easy as singing badly in the shower, once you get used to it! Here are three tips:
Make it specific! Instead of thanking your partner for doing the dishes, share why you appreciate it. For example, “Thank you for doing the dishes. I was exhausted tonight so when I saw you cleaned up the kitchen, I felt a huge wave of relief—I felt really cared for.”
Make it personal. Share a compliment as you express appreciation, like, “I know you had a long day, but you still cleaned the kitchen—you are such a caring partner.” It feels great to be recognized for what we do, and especially amazing to be valued for who we are.
Make a list and share it. Think about what values, characteristics, and endearing qualities you love most about your partner. Choose the top five, and then share away! Your partner is sure to love hearing all that praise!
Remember all the things that first attracted you to your partner? Go back to the source of your love and rediscover those qualities all over again!
The bottom line
Whether you’ve been together for 2 years or 20, just making a small commitment to express your appreciation will nurture your lasting love.
When you create a partnership of gratitude and give your partner specific, personal appreciation, they will know you still have the hots for them! That’s sure to make them glow.
