How to ask for more quality time with your partner
“If you live to be one hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
--Winnie the Pooh to Piglet (A.A. Milne)
Sometimes it can feel awkward to ask your partner for more quality time, especially if you are worried they might not feel the same way. We’re here to the rescue!
It doesn’t have to be hard. After all, isn’t it the ultimate compliment to tell your partner how much you love to be around them? Just do it!
Tips
Pick a time without any distractions and when your partner is in a good mood.
Keep it simple, saying “I want to spend more time with you.”
If it’s too difficult to say it in person, write your partner a card telling them how much you love them and want to spend more time together.
Recall times you’ve spent together and tell your partner you want more of that.
Consider suggesting a “no tech evening” without computers, TVs, or phones. This can be especially interesting if you have kids!
Brainstorm together! List all the fun ways you can spend quality time together. Then get out your calendar and block out quality time.
Plan special date nights and getaways.
Is it okay to ask by text?
In “Wanting More Quality Time With Your SO Is Natural — Here’s How To Ask,” authors Rachel Shatto and Hannah Kern asked experts if it’s okay to ask for more quality time by text.
Anita Chlipala, author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple's Guide to Lasting Love, said it’s okay to test the waters by text.
How To Say “I Want To Spend More Time With You” Over Text
She suggests starting with “I miss you.”
“If their partner responds with an ‘I miss you too,’ they may have more courage to express their feelings,” said Chlipala. This opens the door to planning more time together. She also suggests taking the initiative to plan time together for a few weeks to see if it makes a difference.
You can also send a sexy text to your partner, telling them what you have planned in the bedroom for your evening!
Bottom line
Don’t stress. If your partner is the right person for you, they will be receptive and agree that spending quality time together should be a priority!
